Books
Everything written so far
14 books, 911,129 words. None of them are for sale anywhere right now — the newsletter is the only way to hear when that changes.
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Everything Must Go
The Total Commodification of Human Life
It is a supply-chain analysis of the modern human condition, followed by a practical argument for recovering agency within it.
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Give Them the Long Answer
A Father's Letter on Carrying More Than One Country
It isn't a manual for happiness. It's a manual for holding the full weight of your own complexity without breaking, and without pretending the weight is lighter than it is.
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Naked Ambition
You can learn more about somebody from one hour in bed than from ten years of their CV.
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Secondhand Partners
Nobody Comes New
It is a book about knowing what is true about the person you are with.
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Taproot
The Backlands Framework
This is a framework book: it takes one place — the semi-arid interior of northeastern Brazil — and pulls out of it a set of operating principles you can run a body, a balance sheet and a business on.
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The Approval Tax
The biggest expense in your life has no line on your statement
This book can find the money leaving your life for reasons you would not defend out loud, and put a machine underneath it.
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The Architecture of Everything
Designing Systems for Life, Business, and Relationships
It argues that most of the problems you solve repeatedly are not problems of effort, character, or information, but of design — and that the design is usually visible once you know where to look.
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The Devoted Customer
Building Belief, Community, and Loyalty
The Devoted Customer strips away the theology to reveal the raw psychological framework that builds human devotion, and shows you how to apply it — in the minority of categories where identity is really at stake.
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The Going Rate
What Sex Costs, Who Sets the Price, and What the Market Can't Touch
This book is about the difference between the arithmetic that runs underneath a sexual or romantic exchange and the fact that almost nobody says the numbers out loud.
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The Lies We Love
This book is about the system that takes a red flag you already noticed and converts it into a manageable misunderstanding — how it is built, why you have it, what it costs you, and how to get in front of it.
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The Morality Delusion
This book asks you to audit every moral rule you carry — what it gives you and what it costs you, over a whole life rather than an afternoon — and keep only what pays.
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What Love Requires
A Practical Philosophy of Intimacy, Built from Six Eastern Traditions
This book lays out an alternative to the unexamined Western assumptions about love, built from six traditions that spent twenty-five centuries thinking about what love is, what it costs, and what it's for.
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Who Else Is In The House
What Other Parenting Traditions Get Right, and What None of Them Can Hand You
Cultures differ less in what they do with children than in how they arrange the adults around them, and the arrangement is what makes the doing possible.
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Your Mother W/is a Whore
The word in the title is not the accusation. It's the subject.